Each feeling is different, each emotion is experienced in a different way and, most important, no matter what we see this days, each person is always, always (!), unique.
We can't compare situations of life, we can't compare results, success, failure, ways of dealing with situations. It's impossible.
The best we can do is trying, just trying to understand. It will never be 100% successful because when happening directly to us we don't know how we would react in that exact moment, in the heat of the moment, but it's the best we can do. Trying to have a little bit of comprehension because... yes, nothing ever compares to what we feel ourselves and no one ever feels the same, with the same intensity.